Good types of stress are GOOD and bad are BAD!
What else is valuable to know about the different types of stress?
Following are some examples of types of stress that can occur in your life.
Changes in life type of stress.
Maybe you are, right now, experiencing something that could be described in words like anticipation, thrill, enthusiasm, excitement, happiness, expectation or alike. Is a major event about to take place? Maybe you are getting married, or your son or daughter is. An upcoming marriage creates a type of stress and effects all people involved.
Perhaps you are about to sign a contract that will effect your life or you are on your way to picking up your brand new car. It may be that this is the day that your first book will be released or at least someone might say it will be soon.
At first sight these situations shouldn't evoke any type of stress, but they do. However, it is a good kind of stress and the feelings you are experiencing are helping you to be focused and alert.
Similar situations can bring on harmful stress. Maybe your daughter is getting married or you are signing a loan to buy a beautiful home but somehow the appropriate feelings does not really show. Instead thoughts of worry occur: "She is so young, will she be happy?" or "Will I be able to pay the mortage?" thoughts that blur the pretty picture; or thoughts of guilt: "This wedding is costing so much more than her sisters did."
Such thoughts bring about the bad type of stress that turns into disorders and diseases. Well, not if you have them once in a lifetime, but if they tend to arise every time you are under pressure.
Leaving the comfort zone type of stress.
Picture yourself about to jump off a cliff for your first hanggliding lesson. The good type of stress you experience is overpowering. You are loaded, focused and... and wow, you're gonna do it! The stress hormones has alerted your body and mind. You are sharp, you know exactly what to do and when, and even though you in fact are more scared than you have ever been before, you choose not to give your fear any attention. To project a good type of stress like that gives your "fight" instinct even more strength. You're off and away!
...or, you cannot help thinking how far down the ground is, and you've seen some really nasty sharp blocks on the way that you very well could bump into should you fall exactly straight down. Not very likely one would, but there is always a risk. Indeed. And besides you have heard of hanggliders that break and if that happens one falls right down, for shure. Really fast too. You are overpowered by bad stress. You want to do the jump but as your mind counts up the dangers, instead you jump (on the ground) between excitement and fear. As the fear gets more attention your focus to the jump decreases and if you should jump in a moment like that it is likely something would go wrong. That's how a bad type of stress could do it for you!
All types of stress need to be dealt with.
In the examples of different types of stress I have tried to make one thing evident. That our mind makes the stress good or bad. This is why we react differently to what happens to us. Bad stress for one person is beneficial for another.
It's easy to be fooled though. A lot of people hide their feelings hoping they will be gone forever. What the rest of us see is a person visuably on top of things, but inside them the feelings build up and to keep them off mind craves a lot of energy. This type of stress is an inner fight that wears our bodies down, including our immunsystem. Eventually the feelings and thoughts will catch up. Many people have by that time already chronic physical or mental deceases. That stress handling technique doesn't get high scores.
Not everyone takes care of their feelings in such a poor way. More and more people realize that health should be looked at holisticly and that all types of stress effects the whole body, and so improvement in body strengthens the mind and vice versa. Hence, more humans take more responsability for their health and the overall interpersonal climate is improving globally as a result. Why? Because if we tend to ourselves we feel loved and when we do the feeling has a tendency to rub off on people we meet.
Too much to do type of stress.
To be busy creates another kind of stress.
Perhaps your to-do-list is substantial but it does not effect your mood or ability to concentrate. Then you are probably the kind of person that needs a long list to feel productive and satisfied. A long list is a good type of stress for you.
Or you can have a lot to do and cannot seem to get anything done? With some luck you cope for a while but when someone asks you for one more tiny favour they could just aswell have asked you to take down the moon.
You realize you can't make the favour and a huge machinery of thoughts and feelings sets in motion. Guilt, failure, not being good enough etc. Those types of stress feelings that burst up from inside are quite chaotic and what you say and what you do in moments like this is not planned or controlable.
To take on too much is a common type of stress factor. We do that when we do not know
how to say no
and feel good about it, or when we have yet to learn how to delegate effectively. Well, all problems are opportunities, right?
The type of stress we go through at times of loss.
There is a type of stress that is neither good or bad, or maybe both. It is when a loved one dies, and leaves us with questions, unfinished issues and emptiness. All this can be analyzed and sorted out but it is most important to understand that grief must have its place.
To allow the grief and to feel the love is vital for the continuance of our own life. This type of stress after a loss opens us to our inner self and makes us feel vulnerable. Normally most of us do not expose our inner selves to such degree. When we do, we feel alive in a serene way and are wide open to feel love.
Friends and family can make or break us. We deal with this type of stress differently and there's no right or wrong way. Each must be allowed and accepted. Eventually as time heals us we may handle the issues and questions more rationalistic and less emotional.
The strength we gain after having gone through this type of stress is like no other. After our grief we return to our normal life with a greater knowledge about ourselves and our place in the world. Many of us feel a kind of universal connection that makes us humble and grateful.
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