Relaxation techniques should feel meaningful.



When you establish some relaxation techniques in your daily life it is like locking your front door when leaving home or to stop for a red light in trafic. It is about taking responsibility.

If you have a tendency to "forget" about yourself when you are stressed, you are not alone. What you should do is to create a "When I'm stressed-routine" where you consider your own needs. Because you have them, and they are important, too.


A routine should consist of a few, two to three relaxation techniques that when you perform them you can relax completely. It's important that you calm both your mind and body and so if one action gives your mind rest but not the body the other action must be one that relaxes your body.

If you have a tight schedule, and most people do, it might be a good idea to choose two sets of "my time"-emergency kits. One good for situations with little time to spend and one for longer recreation, like an afternoon, a whole day or even a weekend.

Once you have decided on and prepaired your kits something magical will happen. You will suddenly find moments when you can squeeze in one of the short ones and believe it or not but you will also discover how you seemingly unintentionally make arrangements to have time for one of the longer relaxation times too. This is not so magical at all. What you did when you were prepairing and planning your restful moments was to tell yourself that you care about yourself and your health and that you are worth having a soothing and refreshing time of your own. And what more, as you were starting to listen to your self and believing what you said is true you started to send out signals with the same message. Those signals are apprehended unconsiously by others who then, equally unconsiously, support your actions by saying or doing things that makes it easier for you to get away.

All this takes is a thought from you, and this whole, rather complex, machinery will start. One thought. It shall begin in your heart and travel to your mind where it shall manifest and then grow into action.

What different relaxation techniques can you use to get your body relaxed and your mind set free?

Relaxation techniques that help your mind to rest are based on creativity. These can be, but are not limited to, singing, playing an instrument, creating art such as painting, drawing or working with clay. It could very well include working in a garden, any time of the year or decorating or renovating the house. It could also mean doing puzzles.

Relaxation exercises can involve outdoor activities provided they are performed without any competition involved or any unreasonable threat and together with as few people as possible. They should demand some degree of focus and skill while at the same time give plenty of opportunities to let go and just be. Snorkling, skiing, sailing are som examples.

Why creative relaxation techniques?

When you form something with your hands, voice or body you give full attention to it, you put a lot of focus on what you do and you don't hold back. While you are performing you get feedback from the result and you use that feedback to adjust, and then again you are attentive, focused, give wholeheartedly and recieve new feedback. The intensity in your performance is the key to your relaxation. You let nothing else in.

A very good way to rest your mind is to sing. Since you can do it almost anywhere it's practical too. Now, to sing along with a tune on the radio is fine but what will really release a lot of stress in you is to sing a song from the beginning until the end. When you hear a song that you like, you'll need to learn the lyrics. Most lyrics can be found on the internet. When you have the words to the song play it and sing along as best you can. Make an effort to get the words and the tones right. Remember to drink water.

The second of the two best relaxation techniques is to play and instrument. With equal devotion and some musical notes you practice the same melody over and over and over again until you feel it has become a part of you and when you play it you are opening a door to your heart. The process will probably and hopefully take a long time as you don't practice like a professional, just like a person who loves life and that which life offers.

You can regard the time you spend doing the relaxation techniques as practice or work, or you can see it as an investment in you. If they are not completely voluntary, but instead something you feel you have to do, the positive effect will not show.


Close up to the winning couple of relaxation techniques are, of course creating art. Whether you use a simple pencil or a complete set of oils and brushes is of no importance, only your devotion is. Frankly, many of my best moments and best results of creativity started out with a pencil and me letting go. The approach is similar to the singing and playing an instrument. You put all your attention to what your eyes see and what comes from the pencil or brush. Keep an open mind. The best results are gained when you stop expecting and accept what comes.

All the other relaxation techniques should be approached with the same intensity and devotion. Which is one reason they are best to be performed if not in solitude so at least with as few distractions as possible.

Back to the Thought.

The best effect of any relaxation techniques begins with a thought, an intention. Decide in your heart that this is you want. Your heart is filled with love. Decide to give and recieve that love from You to You. Let the love fill your body and your mind and your mind will think of all possible ways to give your love to You. One of them will be time and opportunity to do some relaxation techniques. Congratulations!

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